4 Tips for Planning a Safe Divorce from an Abusive Spouse

The murder rate in New York has dropped significantly over the past 25 years, with a 40-percent decrease between 2002 and 2016. Despite this positive trend, domestic violence homicides remain alarmingly common.

From 2012 to 2013, homicides in New York decreased by 6.5 percent, but domestic violence homicides spiked by an astounding 16 percent, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

To address this epidemic, Mayor Bill de Blasio created a task force to develop citywide strategies aimed at preventing domestic violence and prosecuting offenders. However, as the New York Times explains, combating domestic violence is easier said than done because nearly half of all domestic assaults are never reported.

If you are trying to escape an abusive relationship, you are not alone, and there are resources available to those who seek them. Charles Zolot can help you access these resources and end your marriage safely.

Call 718-779-6545 to schedule a consultation with a Queens family lawyer at the Law Office of Charles Zolot. Our office is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

4 Strategies to Help You Divorce an Abusive Spouse

If you feel intimidated or fear for the safety of yourself or your children, call 911 or reach out to the New York Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-621-HOPE (4673).

The following four tips can help you initiate the divorce process safely:

  1. Create a Plan

It’s not always possible to predict when an abusive partner will turn violent, so you might not think that any time is a “good time” to leave. The sooner you act, though, the faster you and your children will be out of danger.

Create a plan that outlines when you will leave and where you will stay. Write down the phone numbers of people you trust, and make sure you have cash in case your spouse tampers with your financial accounts. You should be ready to leave at a moment’s notice.

  1. Get an Order of Protection

Ask your family lawyer about getting an order of protection. This would force your partner to:

  • Stay away from you and your kids;
  • Not own a firearm; and
  • Leave your household.
  1. Move to a Safe Place

Relocate to the home of a trusted family member or friend. Make sure you stay a safe distance from your abuser. Consider changing your phone number, and only meet with your spouse in a public place.

  1. Consult an Integrated Domestic Violence Attorney

Stress is an inevitable part of divorce—especially if you are leaving an abusive partner. But an experienced attorney can answer your questions and explain what you can expect during the divorce proceedings. Having this knowledge will give you some piece of mind and will help you plan for life after divorce.

If you would like to discuss your case with an integrated domestic violence attorney in Queens, contact the Law Office of Charles Zolot. Call 718-779-6545 to schedule a consultation today.


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